How to be more attractive to gay men

In a society where a suitable lady is often judged on her soft manners and conventional beauty standards; a suitable gentleman is judged on his social status and his ability to provide. The straight man has lost much incentive to work on their aesthetic selves. In homosexuals, these traditional gender expectations almost vanish, putting equal pressure on everyone to look their aesthetic best.

As a result, most gay men pamper themselves a lot. They would use a lot of skin and hair care products, spend more time on buying clothes and getting ready, some even use cosmetic products. They are free-spirited to try new colours, patterns, and accessories to stay chic. Gay individuals at the moment are doing it far better than straight men.

Who is considered attractive in a society has always been contemporary when this question was asked. In this 21st century cosmopolitan world, muscular men with little to no body hair are seen as extremely attractive. According to several Greek texts and art, the practice of homosexuality was widespread in the ancient era, with the hottest, bustling point being the gymnasium.

Hundreds of naked muscular men would exercise and bond in these establishments.

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The image of an erotic muscular figure has since been a strong element in the gay culture. As a consequence, gay men are often not only conscious of their bodies but are also devoted to sculpting them. It so happens that in the last decades, the same muscleman image has entered the heterosexual world with movie stars, models, and sportsmen all flaunting their bodies on screens.

This cultural overlap makes the athletic-looking gay man more aesthetically attractive to the straight woman. With this growing body-building culture, models and actors often manscape to showcase their muscles to make them more prominent, and consequentially a lot of women and gay men today prefer smooth hairless skin on their partners.

The straight man, like everyone else, finds it extremely tiring to spend months in gyms, cutting out on the most delicious of foods and shaving body hair which keeps coming back every second day. Shifting from the aesthetic angle, I want to explain why women often say their best friends are gay, or that the men they connected the most with are gay.

I will try to explain it with a theory of common suffering. Both women and gay men are often considered inferior to heterosexual men, making them both victims of discrimination. They tend to be more alert of the subtle regressive slurs passed around, know what it means to be snubbed with no mistake, and know how to express empathy to others through their experiences.

The Ladder Theory states that women have two ladders where they see the men in their lives — either on a potential sexual ladder or on a platonic ladder. A man on the latter ladder can reach the top and become her best friend but can never have a sexual future with her. However, men, the theory says, have only one ladder which starts at women initially being acquaintances, then good friends and finally prospective sexual partners.

There is no purely platonic ladder in the mind of men. So, the male on the platonic ladder of the female is likely to end up breaking his heart as their relationship grows stronger. If the theory is true, then straight men and women can have platonic relationships only up to a level beyond which complications are bound to evolve.

Also, if this theory is true, it should apply to gay men.