Do gay men have hemorrhoids

I am a gay man in my late 30s. I have always enjoyed receptive anal sex. For several years, I have suffered from piles. I've had them treated various times but they always came back. The surgeon advised me to have a haemorrhoidectomy, which I did. This was six months ago. The first few months were tough going but then everything started to settle down, and I felt more or less back to normal.

Except for sex. I can take something up to a certain, fairly small, girth. Then the pain kicks in. I'm trying to loosen myself up with toys, but it doesn't seem to be working. I'm really worried I may never have a fulfilling sex life again.

Coping with hemorrhoids

Grateful for any advice. Hey Matt, I've suffered exact same thing and all I can say is you really need to give it some time. What worked for me was a standard butt plug and plenty of lube. I can't be any more graphic. Your haemorrhidectomy has kinda reset your body, and you have to go through the discovery again of working up to bigger sizes.

Just relax, listen to your body, and take your time. Thanks RD, good to know I'm not alone! Hope long after your op would you say you were back to normal? You gotta listen to your body. For me personally, it took around 4 months of regular use. I feel all is back to normal now. Ok, thanks. Hey guys, very glad to read this.

Most forums go way off into the first 5 days of recovery or how to have better BMs after fistula surgery, even if it is supposed to be about receptive anal sex after a hemorrhoidectomy. I am a 40 yo male, bottom and I really love being a bottom and I gave myself an external hemorrhoid after a particularly rushed weekend of enemas, pushing hard to clean out.

I have zero pain, itching, etc.