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Reposting Here. Gay Poly Man Falls for Both Partners. Now what?

One definition of conservatism is "Commitment to traditional values and ideas with opposition to change or innovation. Lots of straight friends assumed the gay community would be uniformly welcoming of my throuple. We knew otherwise—poly friends had been rebuked by gay men before.

As news of our family reached gay fatherhood Facebook groups, comments echoed conservative and religious arguments against gay marriage and other rights:. We should just allow that too?? Other commenters quickly explained that. Most comments then dealt with the concern that we could negatively affect LGBT rights by advocating for ourselves—that other people would make these comparisons, gay back a common cause:.

But 3 gay men listed as parents on the birth certificate? This could set us back. Now this comes out as a big smack in the face!! Several of these disapproving polies had simple misunderstandings. My throuple has never sought plural marriage—we oppose it, worried that it would harm young women who live in extreme religious sects that pressure community members into abusive polygamous NOT polyamorous relationships.

We also saw tons of support from several valued friends and tons of total strangers who said kind things about our family and the cause:. Before gay marriage won at the Supreme Court, many gays worried the case was being heard too soon, and a defeat might set the movement back. The straight-acting gay critiques the flamboyant queer, a comfortable couple tells others not to seek marriage equality, and in this case the married or monogamous gay wants the poly community to keep its collective head down and remain in the closet.

Empathic comments helped show another path:. But the one comment that really stayed with me pointed out how those who have suffered discriminationwho are in a great place to support others due to their understanding gay experience, instead become supporters of the new status quo:.

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